Do you know what impress women?
I want to tell you a little story that happened to me a few years ago.
I moved to London from Bucharest because I lost everything I had. I went to London to start a new life from scratch. At that point in my life, I was used to have access to a very good life. Living in a nice house, having nice cars. I felt like I used to be an “important man” and suddenly I became a shadow of my former self.
That experience put a mark on me, and it made me feel like less of a man.
When I moved to London I was broke. I remember meeting this gorgeous girl, she was really hot. I saw her in a Starbucks, and I walked over to her, flirted with her, we exchanged numbers and we left, she got into a Mercedes and I got into an old Volvo. In that moment I thought to myself “if this woman got a Mercedes, I’ve got to be somebody to date her.”
One night I took her out to dinner, I paid for everything. We went out for this great dinner, and we had a wonderful time. A couple days later, she called me and asked if we can do it again, in the next moment I thought to myself, “I can’t do it again. I can’t afford another dinner like that for at least another month! I am beginning a new life from bottom, I don’t have a lot of money anymore, and I definitely cannot throw another 100£ on a dinner!” So I blew her off, I felt insecure and I didn't see her again.
After half a year, I ran into her. I was at a tea shop getting a cup of green tea and she was behind me in line. We started talking, the attraction and the chemistry was still there. Then she asked me why I didn't call her back because she wanted to hang with me.
At that point, I was starting to do better, my business was growing and I was feeling better about myself. I looked at her and I said “I didn't call you back because I hadn't any money. I took you out to this wonderful dinner because I wanted to impress you. I like taking women out for a great dinner, but only when I can afford it and let me tell you that I couldn't afford that dinner! I had just moved to London and I was starting a new job when I met you. I thought that I would have to do those things to like me, but I wasn't certain that I could keep it up.”
Next she gave me one of the greatest life lessons ever. She looked straight into my eyes and said: „I don’t care about dinner. It was the chemistry we had. I just wanted to spend time with you. We could have taken a walk in the park. Why didn't you tell me about your situation? I have been there before in my life, I know what that’s like.”
And then I said „I am a man and we’re headstrong. In life I want to be able to take my woman out for a nice meal. I want to be able to do things that I want to do. At that time of my life I gave you a false identity, one of I used to be.”
She looked at me and told, “All I cared about is for you to tell the truth. Most men are not honest. Your honestly would have been great, and I would have spent time with you.
That’s when I had to lose my pride and told to her, “The only thing I can offer is a good conversation and a great time. Why don’t we start from the beginning?”
She looked at me and said: “Categorically.”
We ended up dating for one year, hanging out, having a nice time, and doing things that were within my resources. Doing things that I can afford, that would not put a tension on my bank account.
When you create a false identity, all a woman is thinking to: “Will he take me in a trip somewhere? Are we going to go down the coast? Are we going to have another fancy dinner? Are we going to go clubbing and drinking afterward?”
You can drink a glass of wine on your first date. You can go for a walk in the park on your second date or you can show her that you can cook dinner. If she likes your presence, that's all that matters. And she knows that you're being honest from the beginning. You're different than other men who fake it to impress women. Impress women with who you are not with money that you don’t have.
