Conflicts in a relationship are not only normal but, if constructively resolved, they can strengthen the relationship. It is unavoidable that there will be times of rage and tension between you and your beloved one. Resolving these conflicts require honesty, to understand your partner, and lots of communication. When there are meaning decisions towards your job, love life, marriage, and family to be made healthy communication it is very important.
Here are some advices for successful communication and conflict resolution.
Control Yourself - Studies say that couples who hold back themselves and do not say all the angry and the bad things they may be thinking are the happiest.
Really Listen – To be a good listener you mustn't interrupt your partner, focus on what your partner is saying and check out what you understood from your partner.
Timing Counts - Best time to resolve a dispute may not be right away. It is not strange for one or both partners to need a period to cool off. This "time-out' period can make you avoid telling or doing insulting things in the heat of the moment. TIPS - If you are upset with your beloved one but don't know what you wish yet, it will be almost impossible for your partner to realize what you want!
Adopt a "Win-Win" Position -this means that your scope is the relationship, before than for either partner, to "win" in a dispute.
Discuss One Thing at a Time - It can be tempting to list your preoccupation or complains, but doing so will likely extend a conflict. Do your best to keep the focus on resolving one conflict at a time.
Clarify Your Messages - Send simple message but respectful with a direct statement of what you want and what are your needs. Take a little time to detect what you actually want before discussing with your partner. Work on being capable to describe your demand in clear.
Couples who think that conflicts are a threat to the relationship, and something that you have to prevent at all costs, frequently find that gathered conflicts are the real threat. Healthy couples have conflicts, but they "fight fair" admitting when they are wrong, accepting responsibility for their part in conflict, and seeking compromise.
